Boyfriend at different time

Suddenly I have a thought about something. How if me grown up in this time, now. I was wondering how teenagers behave toward things in the villages – as I was village girl- or even teens in town nowadays, in Indonesia. I have no references.

I have a few friends age the end of their teen( and I also see others ), they look, they sound more independent than me years ago in some ways, but at the other way, they are fragile considering they are living in advanced country and in modern time- I do not want to explain how and what.

I am now interested to talk about girls matters. Boyfriend!

When I was teenager, I found a few of my friends had boyfriends already when they are 15, some married when they are 16( but this is accident , of course ). Those days I even did not understand how its happened . But, generally, most girls have boyfriends (and married )after their high school time. And who proud more if this happened? The parents!

My mum warned me not to have boyfriend before university. I was fine. I had a feeling toward somebody that time, but it did not make me want to be his girlfriend, or special friend. Being girlfriend-boyfriend was scary thing for me that time, cause they end up in marriage and having children . I was not ready for such thing. School, university , job much more interesting!

So, I have boyfriend the first time when I was 22. Did I need boyfriend? I did not know. We talked. It seemed goes well. He was good looking, have brain. What else? I did not think! If somebody asked me, are you happy with him? Or are you proud of him? I did not know. Nobody asked me those questions. One thing I knew , I never use somebody to boost a pride for me. I built the pride myself, whatever it was, and I tried to find somebody that suit to me after that.

Now, I noticed that some girls (teens )feeling proud if they have boyfriends, it seems show their credibility as girls and as somebody, and the other side some feeling gloomy if they do not have one, or not have one anymore! It seem that they just fell into the bottom of the world. I do not understand this …..Its just boyfriend! They can find some other s don’t they? Somebody that more suitable… more compatible… more credible…. And don’t have boyfriend is not the end of the world!
But again, may be because their still very young, life still look like a piece of puzzle, once they fail to put a block at the right place, they think it’s difficult, twice they fail they think it’s complicated, third time they fail they frustrated.

It takes time and efforts to gain anything. Even boyfriend, the right one!